Jennifer LopezandBen Affleckkepttheir big engagement newsto themselves for a few days before letting the world know.On Friday, theMarry Mesinger/actress revealed that she and Affleck are engaged, sharing the news in herOn the JLo newsletter. The message to fans included a clip of Lopezadmiring a huge, green stoneon her ring finger, and it came after she teased a “major announcement” with a video on social media that same night: “So I have a really exciting and special story to share…” Lopez told her followers.A source tells PEOPLE that they waited “a few days” before breaking the happy news.For more on Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s engagement, listen below to our daily podcast PEOPLE Every Day.“They got engaged recently. They wanted to keep it quiet for a few days before announcing,” the source says.“Jennifer loves her ring,” the insider adds. “Ben makes her incredibly happy. They arenot talking about a wedding yet, though.“Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez.Steve Granitz/FilmMagicNever miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from juicy celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.Lopez recently told PEOPLE whatmakes their connection different nowcompared to 18 years ago, saying, “We’re older now, we’re smarter, we have more experience, we’re at different places in our lives, we have kids now, and we have to be very conscious of those things.“TheHustlersactress, 52, shares 14-year-old twins Emme and Max with ex-husbandMarc Anthony, and Affleck, 49, shares three kids with ex-wifeJennifer Garner: Violet, 16, Seraphina, 13, and Samuel, 10.“It’s a beautiful outcome that this has happened in this way at this time in our lives where we can really appreciate and celebrate each other and respect each other,” Lopez told PEOPLE. “We always did, but we have even more of an appreciation because we know that life can take you in different directions.“She added, “We have been in the game in the public eye long enough to know who we are as people and what really matters and what doesn’t matter. We have kids and we respect each other. … We really live our lives in a way we can be proud of and our kids can be proud of you. We’re just operating from a place of love and respect for everyone in our lives and that is very important to us. We know what the truth is [and] we hold it sacred.”

Jennifer LopezandBen Affleckkepttheir big engagement newsto themselves for a few days before letting the world know.

On Friday, theMarry Mesinger/actress revealed that she and Affleck are engaged, sharing the news in herOn the JLo newsletter. The message to fans included a clip of Lopezadmiring a huge, green stoneon her ring finger, and it came after she teased a “major announcement” with a video on social media that same night: “So I have a really exciting and special story to share…” Lopez told her followers.

A source tells PEOPLE that they waited “a few days” before breaking the happy news.

For more on Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s engagement, listen below to our daily podcast PEOPLE Every Day.

“They got engaged recently. They wanted to keep it quiet for a few days before announcing,” the source says.

“Jennifer loves her ring,” the insider adds. “Ben makes her incredibly happy. They arenot talking about a wedding yet, though.”

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez.Steve Granitz/FilmMagic

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez

Never miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from juicy celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.

Lopez recently told PEOPLE whatmakes their connection different nowcompared to 18 years ago, saying, “We’re older now, we’re smarter, we have more experience, we’re at different places in our lives, we have kids now, and we have to be very conscious of those things.”

TheHustlersactress, 52, shares 14-year-old twins Emme and Max with ex-husbandMarc Anthony, and Affleck, 49, shares three kids with ex-wifeJennifer Garner: Violet, 16, Seraphina, 13, and Samuel, 10.

“It’s a beautiful outcome that this has happened in this way at this time in our lives where we can really appreciate and celebrate each other and respect each other,” Lopez told PEOPLE. “We always did, but we have even more of an appreciation because we know that life can take you in different directions.”

She added, “We have been in the game in the public eye long enough to know who we are as people and what really matters and what doesn’t matter. We have kids and we respect each other. … We really live our lives in a way we can be proud of and our kids can be proud of you. We’re just operating from a place of love and respect for everyone in our lives and that is very important to us. We know what the truth is [and] we hold it sacred.”

source: people.com